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Abdelaziz Aouragh runs an online sex shop for Muslims. I see this pattern often repeated of Muslim women leading their male counterparts in the discussion about sexuality and intimacy. According to Islamic law, sex is limited to between those who are married. But when it comes to exactly what you can do, and how sex is generally discussed, Islam itself is quite open.
There are stories about how Prophet Muhammad would be approached in the mosque by women and men asking open questions about sexuality. In one famous tale, a woman came to see him on her wedding night, to complain her husband was too busy praying and hadn't come near her. The Prophet went to see the husband, admonished him for being too engrossed in religious prayer and instructed him to, erm, pay more attention to his bride. This openness has been lost over time, and discussions about sex have become taboo.
However, things are slowly changing. Wedad Lootah is a UAE marriage counsellor who published an Arabic sex guide, Top Secret: Sexual Guidance for Married Coupleson how to achieve sexual intimacy with your partner, stating couples needed the advice. Her book was blessed by the mufti of the UAE. But she received intense criticism. The one day training included an hour about sex. Jenny is an Irish Muslim organising a similar two part seminar for young women only, the first on marriage, the second on intimacy.
Nomani says she received negative feedback about the bill. But when I read about it I remember thinking, this is not in the least controversial or new for Islam. But push on I will. There is a lack of research about the existing levels of sexual knowledge among Muslims.
How much do they know? Where do they gain their knowledge? And perhaps the most difficult to ask: what is the reality of how they conduct their sexual lives? And last year in the US, an anthology of true courtship stories written by Muslim women was published delightfully entitled Love, Inshallah God willing. Amongst the narratives there were those that were sexually explicit and spoke about sex both inside and outside marriage. Whilst the book itself was extremely popular, its comparatively graphic nature drew positive feedback as well as criticism.
But the more important point of both books is that Muslim women themselves are trying to open a discussion about sexuality, its role in their identity, and their fears and aspirations. For those Muslims who want to live a chaste life, the pressures are immense. Our surroundings are notoriously sexualised. Virginity is seen as freakish. For teen Muslims, these challenges must be particularly difficult. If contextually appropriate teachings are not available — whether at home, in the mosque or in other social settings — then the taboos about sexuality become entrenched, lead to diminished knowledge, and pleasure or even negativity about sex.
So where should a young or even old! Muslim turn to for sexual teachings that they feel are in line with an Islamic perspective. Courses like the one being run by Jenny are few and far between.
And those willing to discuss matters openly are equally rare. And to even begin such discussions, what is needed is a healthy dose of facing up to the fact that how Muslims live their lives is not necessarily the same as the Islamic ideals they aspire to. A famous Islamic traditional teaching about sexual pleasure says that when God created desire, He made it into ten parts.
He gave nine parts to women, and just one to men. She can be found tweeting here. She is the Vice President of Ogilvy Noor, the world's first branding agency for Muslim consumers, and one of 'Britain's Future female leaders of the advertising industry' according to the Institute of Practitioners in Advertising.Arab women looking for sex
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